Pre-marrital Counseling

Follow the below instructions for the pre-marital counseling course. It will be important for you to spend a minimum of four hours on the course to receive the certificate.

Online Premarital Course Page 1:

Section: ROLE MODELS

Each of you describes a person or persons whom you consider to be a great father, or mother, or husband or wife. Of course, explain your choices…what makes them great in your estimation?

Section: GIVE ME A HAND

One of you holds out your hand. The other person describes the hand from their vantage point. Now, you describe the same hand. Note how your descriptions are the same & how they are different. Which one of you is right? Of course, you’re both right, you’re just looking at it from different perspectives. Is there a subject you’ve been discussing where there is no right or wrong? How does remembering this principle of “perspective” help in a marriage? What are some areas in which men and women have different perspectives?

Section: RESEARCH 101

Does this sound too much like going to school? No need to go to the library for this research though. Each of you think of someone you know who has a successful marriage…not just long, but what you consider a good marriage. Each of you go separately & talk to the husband or wife and ask them about their marriage (your asking will be compliment to them). Come back together and compare notes.

Section: STUPID IS AS STUPID DOES

Can each of you think of a stupid argument you’ve heard . What made it stupid? Why do you think it became an argument? How could it have been avoided? Can’t think of one? A husband was sitting in front of his TV eating from a bag of LAYS potato chips when he pulled from the bag the biggest potato chip you’ve ever seen in your life. He starts holding it in the air, waving it around and bragging as if he had made the chip himself. All is fine until his wife reaches over and crunches his potato chip! He got mad and an argument followed. Can you top this one? Email me your stupid argument (names always withheld to protect the guilty). - “If you don’t learn to laugh at troubles, you won’t have anything to laugh at when you grow old” Edward W. Howe

Section: BE AN ARTIST

Some people like to draw. Whether you are good at it or not, this can be an interesting exercise. Each of you, separately, draws a picture of what you believe a family to be. Compare pictures and explain what you’ve drawn. If you’re not an artist, your explanation may be essential!

Section: YOU ARE THE COUNSELOR

Imagine that you’ve been married for ten years. What would you say to: 1. A young couple engaged to be married. 2. A couple at the end of their first year of marriage. 3. A couple in conflict and considering a divorce. Discuss your answers with each other.

Section: I KNOW ONE WHEN I SEE ONE

Each of you write down and describe a really bad marriage that you are aware of. What makes it bad? Where did it go wrong? How will yours be different? Discuss this with each other.

Section: TOYS – R – US

Do you like toys? Which of the following toys illustrates what marriage is like to you. What do you think your marriage will be like. Slinky - Silly Putty - Yo-yo – Puzzle – Adventure Game